Question: My friend’s husband
shows annoyance at her when she goes out for Da‘wah activities,
but this reaction doesn’t lead to any chaos or bigger problems in the home
environment. So how important is a mere temporary displeasure and just
a few taunting sentences which she tolerates with patience and carries
on?
Answer: I think she can decide
best what is appropriate for her while giving due weight to the harmony
that should be maintained between a wife and her husband. If she believes
that her decisions would not disturb the atmosphere of trust and faith,
she is perfectly allowed to do what she wishes to.
However, I personally feel that sometimes
things keep boiling up within a person till such time he/she can no longer
bottle them up. Then small exchanges of some disapproving sentences take
the form of full-blown disagreement which leads the victims to excessiveness.
I mean what your friend wishes to do is not a program of one or two days.
Is it? She wants to continue it. That ultimately means that her husband
will continue to observe that his wife is constantly disobeying him— according
to his viewpoint. I fear that these small taunting sentences then may turn
into complete disapproval which obviously can affect their relationship.
What I do not understand is her hurry
to do everything her way: she should first convince her husband regarding
the importance of learning and teaching Islam. In the life of a couple,
there come many occasions when no request is put down. I advise her to
wait for that moment and, as it comes, place her request before her husband,
which I believe he would never put down. I am asserting all this because
the process of learning and teaching Islam requires peace of mind. This
is indeed the toughest path to tread, you would agree. Let her settle down
the matter with her husband happily and peacefully. Then the world would
be open to her to work with utmost peace of mind.
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