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Islam has based its social
structure on the institution of family. For the development of such a society
in which the basic unit is the family, it is essential to regard chastity
and modesty as fundamental values. It is to safeguard and protect these
values that the Shari‘ah has laid down a whole code of social etiquette
and communal conduct. These directives have been discussed in the Qur’an
very minutely. Since, their interpretation, in recent times, has often
touched the two extremes, it is, once again, necessary to contemplate on
the Qur’an in quest for the ‘ariston metron’ --- the golden mean.
The first category of directives pertains to safe and secure places. According to the Qur’an, such secure places may either be residential ones (bayt-i-maskunah) like houses and apartments or non-residential ones (bayt-i-ghair maskunah) like offices and schools. It says that if some friends, relatives or acquaintances visit one another, they should follow a certain decorum. If the visited place is residential in nature, the visitor should first of all properly introduce himself by paying salutations to the residents of a house. In this regard, the Prophet (sws) has instructed the visitor to knock three times at the door and if he hears no reply, he should turn back and not start an incessant session of pounding the door. Furthermore, if the residents are not in a position to welcome him and they ask him to return, he should withdraw without any ill-will towards them. However, in case the visited place is non-residential, no formal permission is required. Once a person has entered his destination, the men and women who are present, should observe two regulations: they should guard their gazes from taking undue liberty and take care that the dress they are wearing properly covers them. Women should observe one additional regulation as well: they should not display their finery except those which is evident, that is their clothes or any adornments worn on the face and hands. For this purpose, the Qur’an says they should cover their chests by their head-coverings and should not strike their feet in a manner which draws attention to any ornaments they may be wearing. Furthermore, the Qur’an says that it is not necessary to observe this third regulation with mahram relatives, but as far as the first two regulations are concerned they must be observed without exception to anyone whosoever. It is evident, therefore, that men and women while observing these regulations can eat and converse together. The Qur’an says:
O The second category of directives pertains to places which are not secure and unprotected from people of lewd character. Markets, road sides, shops and parks are examples of places where such people might create nuisance for women. The Qur’an tells Muslim women to wear large cloaks when they go out so that a part of the cloaks covers their faces as well, for this is the way dignified women dress up when they go out. This dress will identify them as decent women and they will not be teased. The Qur’an says:
The third category of these
directives relates to the leading women of a society, who set an example
for others. Owing to the special position of the Prophet (sws), his wives
occupied this place in his times. Consequently, these directives have been
addressed to them. It is clear that the leading women of a society play
a very essential role. The values which they adopt become the values of
the society, and the trends they set become the trends of the society.
If they falter, the whole society falters and if they remain on the right
path, the whole society remains on the right path. It is due to the special
position of such women that some additional directives have been given
to prevent any scandal mongers from spreading mischief.
Secondly, they should take care that whenever, they have to say something to people in whose hearts there is the ailment of lewdness, they should speak without showing any softness to them:
In this regard, the people
who assemble in the houses of the leading men of the society are also directed
to observe certain manners.
Secondly, If these people want anything from within the house, they must not charge inside, but ask for what they want from outside:
These are the Qur’anic
directives of Hijab. The social etiquette they depict is poised
magnificently between the extremes human civilisations have often witnessed.
Like all other directives of Islam their object is to purify the soul and
to purge it from evil, which is essential if man has to become worthy of
the eternal life Heaven --- the eternal life for which the Almighty actually
created him.
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